just some thoughts i hope to remember in twelve years when i start their baby books.
i've spent a lot of time thinking (and sometimes feeling guilty) that twins have it rough: you can not give them the attention (mainly snuggles) they deserve as babies, and now as little toddlers you can not (properly) comfort both at same time, feed them fast enough, and it is hard to really play with and stimulate one if the other is fussing. i truly thought they had it harder.
until this moment last week at lunch:
when they high-fived each other.
again and again. and laughed and laughed.
it is not a new trick, but they had never done it to each other. and they were laughing so much. and i realized, they have a forever friend.
someone who is a bit like them. and they will play sports together. and be in the same classes. and experience their "firsts" together. yes, i know it will not always be happy times, we already have some intense tug-of-wars over jack's lovey but for now i am going to relax on trying to stimulate them equally or split the meatball exactly in half. they have it really good.
i do not compare them to each other in terms of growth (and definitely do not worry that jack has 8 teeth and ben only 2), but really enjoy seeing how they are different. ben loves loves loves the swing.
jack tires of it after a few pushes. he prefers to climb all over the baby-death-trap playset.
ben wakes up screaming calling out for us, while jack will talk and snuggle his lovey for a while. jack's first word was tree. ben's was ball. ben said his first. jack walked first. ben walks like frankenstein. they are both super silly. they both need lots of hugs.
they both adore this guy.
matty was always being held and snuggled and spent lots of time in the bjorn. all of our time was deovted to him. gosh, he still crawls in our bed some nights and never had to 'cry it out.'
and i know matty will forever have two best buddies. but for now, his mama is his best friend. and i feel like i have it best.
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one of my friends who lost her only sister has a theory that the best gift you can give your child is that of a sibling. i think its so true. and that's what i tell myself when #3 doesn't get the attention the other two got!
What beautiful sentiments. All mothers should feel that way about their children. I have seen it time and time again in our family. With nine grandchildren and no two being alike and the same with our six children. How can there be such differences. It is fascinating to watch and mystifying when you think about. It is just beautiful. And watching from a distance you can see if all unravel in an electrifying tapestry. Enjoy! They grow soooo fast. But the memories linger.
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